All posts by R.C. Liley

I'm an ex-mutual fund accountant who left the cubicle world to be a stay-at-home dad to my beautiful little girl, Avery, who entered our life on 11/15/13 and handsome little boy, Wes, who joined our family on 11/19/17. Also happily married to my wife, Kelley, as of 8/17/07. Sorry ladies... :) Fitness and nutrition is of the utmost importance in our family and we strive to reflect this in our daily life. I always prepare our meals at home and only go out if it's a special occasion, and even then I tend to not get much. Food should be fun and a joy to eat, not something quickly consumed from a fast food chain or scarf down before the next meeting. I have come from strictly logging high miles to train for the next marathon to keeping exercise varied and focusing more on strength. I still enjoy going for a run when I can, but nothing crazy, and I prefer hill sprints while pushing my daughter, Avery in the stroller. She loves it and I get a great workout! I want to show the world how to appreciate their body and feed it real, wholesome food while moving more throughout the day. In doing so, everyone would be healthier, happier, and we'd all live in a better place as a result. I blog mainly about my life as a stay-at-home dad and frequently include reviews, participate in campaigns, and share my thoughts on fitness and nutrition. If you ever have any questions or thoughts to share, please reach out as I'm always open to listening or helping others however possible. That is, when I have free time since Avery is and my wife are the number one priorities!

Taking Care of Your Health as a Dad

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In this article, we’re going to look at a number of factors that are relevant to taking care of your health as a dad, particularly as you get older.  

Men’s health is different to that of women’s health, and men suffer from a variety of issues women don’t – for instance, male pattern baldness is something some men are genetically predisposed to, and whilst it is relatively common in society it is something that can still cause much trauma to the ego of many men.

Similarly, there are issues such as hearing loss and eyesight issues that affect both genders, and of course diseases such as diabetes, heart disease and stroke are also common in both genders.  There are specific formulations of vitamin supplements that are known to be good for men, though in the majority of cases, common sense and stable health practices such as ensuring plenty of hydration and reducing fat in your diet.

In this article, we’re going to look at some of the core prophylactic measures you can take to ensure you have optimum health as you grow older.  Of course, there are remedial devices such as how a pair of glasses can help correct eyesight deterioration and a hearing enhancer can amplify sound to make it easier to hear… but, prevention is often better than cure, and so in that spirit let’s take a look at some of the aspects of your health you might want to consider taking better care of.

1. DIET

What you eat you become.  We’ve all heard this phrase, time and time again, yet we still manage to stuff our faces with food that isn’t good for us.  The reason for this is that many people are emotional eaters, meaning they eat to derive pleasure and celebrate or derive comfort and commiserate.

The challenge with this approach to food, however, is that it’s being used as a “drug” rather than a fuel, and in that sense, we aren’t always making the wisest choices for our health – as we are placacting our emotional urges rather than physiological needs.

Consider the food you eat to be like a bank account, in that there are certain things that are “deposits” (e.g. a healthy meal) and there are also withdrawals (e.g. a greasy doughnut that clogs your arteries).  This way, you can simply keep track of whether you’re starting to get overdrawn.

2. HYDRATION

Again, we all know that the body (and particularly the brain) is made up mostly of water, yet we often live in a perpetual state of chronic dehydration.  This causes headaches, low mood, stress and aches and pains throughout all our muscles.  

The simplest solution to improving your health is found in the process of drinking more water.  The more water you drink, within reason, the healthier you will become. There are many scientific reasons for this, but in a nutshell, you just need to make sure you are drinking a LOT of water in order to stay in optimum health.

3. CARDIOVASCULAR FITNESS

In addition to diet, fitness that raises your heartbeat is a good preventative factor when it comes to fending off heart disease.  Now, if you are in a state of poor health the last thing you want to do is start going to the gym and engaging in extremely intense sport, as this is likely to do more harm than good.  

The trick is to start off slow, and build up gradually, to ensure you are maintaining a healthy heart.  Using a heart rate monitor can be helpful to assess where your heart rate is within a class, and ensure it remains within a safe zone.

4. FLEXIBILITY

Something a lot of guys focus on, when it comes to being fit is building their muscles so that they “look good”, yet this can sometimes be at the detriment to health in longevity.  For instance, if you overwork your chest muscles without focusing on your upper back, you are likely to become hunched over which can cause postural problems down the line.

Flexibility is more important than strength when it comes to functional fitness, so getting yourself to a yoga class, or simply following along on YouTube makes a lot of sense to ease common complaints such as back pain.

5. STRESS

Stress is known as one of the biggest killers, in the sense that it’s often the underlying cause for physiological changes in the body that lead to disease.  There’s an idea that the mind controls the body and in that sense, you want to remember that your physical health is directly linked to your mental health. Always take note of your mental health and ensure to seek help if necessary. There are plenty of products out there that can help with stress, from chamomile teas to a list of full spectrum oils. You can also reach out to a doctor, therapist, support groups, helplines, friends and family if you are struggling. Remember, you are never alone!

Keeping Decorum During Divorce Proceedings (For The Sake Of The Kids)

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It’s one of the most stressful experiences anybody can go through. Everything that’s inherent about your personality is ripped out of you, and put on display, and then used against you in a legal setting. But when you are going through the divorce process and you’ve got children, the most difficult thing to keep a lid on is the anger and negative emotions you feel so tempted to spit out. But for the sake of the children, it’s important that you set an example, and keep everything in check. What can we do?

Keep The Adult Conversations Between The Adults

It’s simple, but it’s seldom abided by. If your ex is denying you time with the children for a specific reason, the temptation right there and then in front of the kids could be to tell them exactly what your rights are. It’s important that we know what we are allowed to do in a legal context, and there are father’s rights help resources that can help with this. But when the conversation turns to things like money we need to keep the children out of it.

Stop Your Childish Sensibilities

Name-calling, being spiteful and criticizing your ex doesn’t turn your children against them, it turns them against you in the end. This is poisoning your children’s minds, and if you use whatever limited time you have with them to spout negativity about your ex, this is going to cause them so much stress. Doing this is making your children choose between one or the other, and if your ex is holding the fort and not resorting to name-calling, then you are the one that’s going to emerge as the loser. The same applies to money. We can’t buy our children’s love, and resorting to bribery tactics may help on the surface, but when you want your children to love you no matter what, money isn’t the way to get them to love you more. We underestimate children in this respect, and they are smarter than we ever give them credit for. Sure, buy your child something nice because you want to, but don’t use it as a reason for them to keep coming back.

Put Yourself In The Kids’ Shoes

They are going through a stressful time, and while you are struggling with a whole manner of emotional, not to mention financial, problems, you need to look at it from the perspective of your children. They are being forced to live in two different places, and this is such an upheaval, that you need to find ways to ease them into this inevitable scenario. Instead of uprooting them, as difficult as it may be, finding ways for you and your ex to spend time with the children as a family could help the kids feel better about the situation. This means that both you and your ex have to reach some common ground. This may be done through counseling, but whatever your approach, the children have to take priority. Amazingly, during divorce, this is something we can forget about. Keeping decorum during divorce is not easy, but it’s achievable, just as long as both sides are ready and willing.

Living With Family: Townhouse, Condo, or Apartment: Which Option to Choose and Why

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When you’re looking for accommodation as a family, there are different factors to consider than when you’re alone or with roommates. The most popular options for families are an apartment, a townhouse, or a condominium. You can also use services like a melbourne townhouse builder to design a customized home specific to your wants and needs. 

Confused about what kind of housing to get for you and your family? Make things easier with the tips below!

Consider The Maintenance Factor

When you’re living with family, you’ll probably require repairs on a regular basis. Are you good at repairs or will you have to call someone in every time? This is a major consideration when you’re choosing between housing styles. A townhouse is a single, independent unit that gives you the freedom for repairing and renovation. However, this also means more responsibility. If the thought of house repairs and maintenance stress you out, it’s worth finding outside help like a handyman in Bogart or something similar near you.

With a condo, though, you pay a monthly fee to a board and get your snow shoveling, exterior repairs, and mowing done from there. If there’s a shared yard or playground, its maintenance might also be the board’s responsibility, not yours. Make sure you know what you’re getting in return for being part of the condo community before finalizing.

A house or apartment repair will depend on whether you buy or rent it. Renting would take most of the repair responsibility off your shoulders, but it would also mean you have little freedom or motivation to renovate. Then again, you have a lot of options with this style, such as at https://www.vintageapartments.com/.

Don’t Overthink It

Whether you’re looking for a first home or have some experience already, don’t fuss too much about the housing style but research the differences between townhouse and duplex before you make any final decisions. When looking for a new home the location, price, maintenance, and other factors of buying a house are what matter first. At the end of the day, you might find that the different living spaces aren’t that different from one another when it comes to actual living. While condos do provide flexibility and house a higher level of privacy, there isn’t much daily sacrifice in choosing one housing style over another.

Think About The Cost Of Living

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A family home requires a lot of budgeting in most cases. You’re already juggling utilities, school fees, and medical bills on a monthly basis. Adding a lease payment or rent to the mix isn’t going to be easy.

Hence, keep in mind how your new home’s location will delve into your pocket. A desirable housing option like Kapilina beach homes for military housing might be one of the considerations. If you’re looking for military housing, you can conduct additional research on the cost of living involved and match your budget accordingly.

Assess Your Expected Lifestyle

Your housing style would also decide your lifestyle to a large extent. Check out your preferences in order to make the best decision for you and your family.

If you like a suburban neighborhood, a townhouse or condo are the best options. For an urban, fast-paced lifestyle in the center of the city, you’ll find an apartment the most logical decision.

With a family, having a stable job is also important. If you don’t work solely from home, you should know about the ideal commute. There’s little sense in moving to an upscale urban neighborhood if it means a three-hour commute every morning.

Finally, you may also want to make sure you stay within reach of extended family and friends. Your kids would need that sense of belonging no matter where they live. The adults would also require sure a support system from time to time.