It can feel like you’ve got enough on your plate as it is! Whether you’ve welcomed a new baby into the world recently, or you’ve already got a brood of your own, having that talk about getting married after having children can seem to get away from us, even with the best of intentions. But when it comes to getting married, some of us don’t care if we do or if we don’t, but others very much do! And from the perspective of dads, we might have enough on our plate, but how can we make sure that we have a great wedding, especially after having children? And is it even feasible?
Start Off On The Right Foot (Or Knee)
If you have both been talking about getting engaged for some time, it’s important to give her the ring she deserves. Getting everything started on the right foot means that you can both talk about it like you doing something for the both of you are not necessarily for the sake of the “family unit.” So many people used to get married because it was supposedly the right thing to do, and now as getting married after having children means you have to re-register those children born out of wedlock, it can seem like a little bit of a headache. But, if you are doing it for any reason, ensuring that your children can get your estate after you pass away is a good reason. But the fact of the matter is, you both have to want to do it yourselves. So treat it with the respect it deserves, and give it that sense of occasion. Make sure to capture the occasion with photos to always remember the moment. If you’re in the area, wedding pictures Cape Cod has numerous photogenic areas.
Give It The Time It Needs
You have more financial obligations, and you’ve obviously got to ensure that your children are happy, so why bother rushing into getting the ceremony done and dusted? There is no time limit, so why don’t you give it the time it needs, not so that you can plan the perfect ceremony for the both of you, but also ensure that your children are past teething, jabs, and all of those issues that can be a veritable nightmare for the first year or so after a child has been born. Planning a wedding, or meeting caterers the day after you’ve been up with the child all night means that you aren’t fighting fit, and it’s likely you might make a few decisions you’ll regret later on. It’s far better to give yourselves that space and time so you can both decide, with a clear head, what you want. After all, the day is for the two of you!
You Can Still Have A Stag Do!
It just might be a more sedate occasion. You may have friends that don’t have children or aren’t in a relationship, and they have something incredibly messy planned for you. But you have to be firm and tell them you’ll have to function like a proper human being in a couple of days’ time! Perhaps a meal followed by a few pints in the pub may be all you can realistically get in. And, if you feel you deserve a massive stag do, be it on your head! You know how terrible you will feel come Monday morning, especially when you know that the child hasn’t decided to sleep that night you get home!
You Are Marrying A Great Parent!
Some people don’t know what they will be like as a parent until they have a child, and once you’ve got married to, and then you decide to have children, you might both be in for the shock of a lifetime. But you already know what kind of parent the other person is. And, perhaps more importantly, they already know what type of parent you are like. This means that the marriage doesn’t begin on a foundation of question marks, but you already know a lot about the other person, have already been through the thick and thin and ups and downs of being a parent, and yet, if you still want to both marry each other, then that is fantastic!
And, perhaps the most important thing in the run-up to the big days that you both have to be on the same page, communicate, and discuss everything. It can be like you are passing ships in the night, but remember, because of the stress and strain of having children, make sure the doors of communication are even more open than they were before. They can be a lot to pressure put-upon yourselves even without a date set, so give yourself the time, and remember, it’s so you can all feel like it’s one of the best days of your lives (and the children can still get involved).