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The Best Christmas Present Ever is Our Baby Boy!

The best Christmas Present for 2017, that is. I don’t want our sweet 4 year old girl, Avery stumbling upon this post one day and forever having her feelings hurt. I promise, Avery, you were definitely the best Christmas present ever for 2013. 🙂

I don’t find much time for writing lately, and this one will be short, but I wanted to give an update to my last post about how we are having a boy. Since then, she grew from the 15 weeks pregnant pic in that post….

15 weeks with our baby boy.

…..to 36 weeks pregnant.

And right before hitting the 39 week mark, she gave birth to our boy!

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Hello, World, I’m here!

Going Mom gave birth naturally at an awesome birth center near our home to a handsome little guy named Weston on Sunday, November 19th, 2017. Just 5 days after his big sister’s birthday; talk about close!

People kept telling us the second child comes fast and makes for a quick labor, but my wife and I were both shocked at how fast the entire birth went. Her water broke at home around 7:50 pm and he was born that same night at 10:10 pm. We are forever thankful for having such an amazing midwifes and doula crew who knew how to support us, ensure everyone was safe, and keep calm throughout the process. Thanks to them, we had our boy in our arms, safe and sound to hold and snuggle with.

 

Our friends with 2 or more kids told us going from having a kid, to having kids is different, simply put, and so far that’s holding true. Different as in hard, different as in wonderful, different as in, awesome, different as in….well, you get, it’s a mixed bag of emotions! But I’ll be damned if it’s not the sweetest thing seeing Avery being a proud big sister.

It will take some time to adjust to not getting all of the attention, but overall, I’d say she’s coping fairly well. We get Going Mom at home for the next 4 months since her job has an awesome maternity leave policy, and man do we need it just to get somewhat adjusted to life as a family of four. Besides the crazy sleep schedule and constant diaper changes, I’d say we’re doing just fine though. We even picked out our (real) Christmas tree together and took the obligatory selfie.

We made Wes cut down the tree, that’s why he’s sleeping in the pic.

I’m cutting it short since I need sleep. Once things settle, I’ll try for more details, but until then, keep up to date on my Facebook and Instagram pages if you’d like.

If I don’t post before, have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

We’re Having A Boy! + The Best Happy Birthday Song

Yes, you heard read that right, Going Mom is pregnant with our second (and last) child and I’m happy to announce we’re having a boy!

15 weeks with our baby boy.

If you’ve been following me for a while, like before I’ve been mostly absent the past few months, you might know how difficult it was the first time around. This time, as we were preparing to go through the long process with the same clinic, I came home to see my wife hardly able to contain her excitement from several positive pregnancy test results.

It’s so hard to believe everything happened naturally, but we are ever so grateful to know we are having a boy, a freakin’ boy, and totally skipped the big needles, stress, and waiting for what feels like forever to know anything. Seeing my beautiful wife with her growing baby belly fills me with happiness every day.

Okay, that might be a lie…..we’re past the first trimester now, but damn, it makes the typical fraternity hell week look like a cake walk. Ladies, please don’t come knocking on my door with pitchforks and torches, I’m not trying to have a pity party for myself. I say that it was miserable for all of us.

I felt bad for my wife while simultaneously fearing for my life too. Thankfully a little prenatal yoga along with Avery’s support helped out.

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Now we’re through the worse part (right?) and things are stabilizing for the time being. Avery mostly understands that there’s a growing baby in mommy’s belly and that she’s going to have a little brother, but there’s still some things she has yet to figure out. One thing being how to name a boy!

We are undecided at this point, but Avery insists on the name Crake. Now she has an imagination on par with the kids in Neverland on Hook. Give her an empty plate for dinner and she’d have an epic food fight just like in the movie. But, no, we will not name our boy Crake. Right now, the two names sticking out are Jaxon and Weston. I’m leaning more on Weston, or Wes, and Kelley likes Jaxon, or Jax. What do you think this guy looks like?

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Any suggestions are welcome as we’re both waiting for the one name that just sticks out. Parents with 2+ kids, did you have a harder time naming your first kid or the ones after?

While I don’t plan on blogging that often, it’s a nice outlet at times, and I really wanted to share the awesome news. Spending more time with Avery and Kelley always takes priority though, and I feel less stressed when I’m not trying to write x amount of posts. Reducing stress is something I really need to……errrr, stress now that I’m another year older as of the 8th anyway.

So that’s all for now, I just want to leave you with the best birthday gift/stress reducer I could ask for.

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FYI – her imagination is what spawned the creation of her empty toothbrush box with pink bubble wrap microphone. Love that girl!

Riding Without Training Wheels: The WOOM 2 Transition

Teaching your kid to ride a bike without training wheels may seem like a daunting task. But, if they’re used to riding a balance bike like the WOOM 1 from WOOM Bikes, it can be done in less than a week.

Not long after I announced we were getting a WOOM 2 Pedal Bike to transition from the WOOM 1 Balance Bike, the much anticipated two-wheeler arrived. Avery diligently “helped” Daddy open the box and get her Big Rocket ready to ride. Luckily, WOOM makes setup easy so your kiddo can hop on and ride pose for a cute pic.

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For those wondering, yes, she quickly accrued 10 miles on the WOOM 1 to earn her new bike. Actually, it took less than a week to get there. Okay, okay, I admit that’s not much of a goal to earn a nice new bike like the WOOM 2, but hey, I wanted to see our girl pedaling for the first time! I imagined her hopping on and pedaling on the first try while she cried out in joy as she took off.

So much for my imagination.

After a few more attempts, it was clearly not happening on the first day. Knowing not to push her too hard which will easily ruin a kids’ experience, we called it quits for the day. Before getting on the bike that day, her enthusiasm for her new pedal bike was through the roof, but afterward, she was telling me she was all done with it and i could give it back. Ummm, sorry, dear, that’s not quite how it works.

The next day, after an encouraging talk and promises from daddy that I will be right there to hold on to her, she agreed to give it another go. Little did she know, I was going to suddenly let go as she was moving along. I wasn’t sure how it would turn, but it sounded like a good idea to this wise dad. But was it?

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YES! On the second day of riding, unsure if my “just let go” plan would prove successful, Going Mom and I had a pedaling toddler on our hands! You could see and hear the confidence radiating from our little girl.

It’s always bittersweet watching your little one learn and grow, but this definitely goes down in the super proud dad history book. Avery has been riding great all by herself since that day and can even hang with the older bike riding boys in the neighborhood. When asked if they want to ride, I’d say their actions are all that’s needed.

She kept up well on her WOOM 1 Balance Bike, but now she can really hang with the more experienced friends. She’s also learning how to share her pride and joy, “Big Rocket” (the balance bike is now “Little Rocket”, obviously), with her friends.

The WOOM 2 is parent, Avery, and friend approved!

We’ve been watching her ride for a couple weeks now and while she’s getting better, there are still areas that need work. Thanks to the freewheeling kit offered by WOOM, she’s quickly learned to use her hand brakes, but every now and then she’ll shoot her legs out to stop with her feet as if on a balance bike. Another issue is getting her kickstand up/down.

It’s a daily struggle, but I refuse to help in hopes that she’ll eventually catch on. I know she will, but until then, it’s painful to watch. As frustrating as it is, she surprisingly accepts that she should do it on her own, and knows a nice bike deserves to be properly…errr, propped and not just laid on its side. Always respect your belongings, another great lesson.

Riding straight and not wobbling all over the sidewalk is another big area to work on. We have to remind her to look where she’s going and not get distracted, but any parent that has or had toddlers knows how that goes.

I’ll share more as her transition continues, hopefully with a better braker that can ride in a straight line! No matter what, everyone is in awe that she picked up riding her pedal bike so quickly and never needing training wheels. We tell her how proud we are each and every day.

Any tips on continued training on a pedal bike?

Care to share any stories of your own?